What to do if your teacher has a crush on you?

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This is totally juvenile and childish maybe, but I'm not sure. My English teacher has been treating me 'specially'. I'm sorry this is so long, but please finish reading!

Okay, first, our class is really rowdy. So he's created what he calls a 'discipline sheet'. If your name is on it three times, you have a student-teacher conference. Each of my friend's names are on it. My whole class, actually. Except me. You get on for doing stuff like yelling, swearing, being rude. My friend yelled in the hallway and got written up. My other friend called a teacher a jackass in his presence and got written. I did everything that I previously listed, and all he said was, "I know you didn't mean to do it, so I'll let you go this time. I was like, "Okay, great, thanks!"

Then later, he gave me a strange compliment. "You look really cute today." Normally, I wouldn't think twice about it. But considering the fact that I wear a uniform like everyone else, that was strange.

Then there was the time he caught me smoking. Smoking is prohibited on school campus. If you're caught, it's immediate in-school suspension for 3-5 days. Older kids have gotten caught and got the 5 day suspension. He caught me and just told me, "I'm confiscating these. I know you're a good girl and you won't do this again. I'm letting you off this time with just a warning."

I'm a really good student in his class, and I always keep an A+ in his class. He always calls on me for answering questions when other students want to, he constantly buys me stuff like candy or gum, and when I was cutting myself, he sat with me and had a good long talk about it. He's told me personal stuff about his family too. Should I be creeped out? I mean, I think it's normal, since I'm a good student. But other students are noticing too. My friends say he keeps staring at me in strange ways. But then again, they are really immature... Am I just being paranoid?

BTW, none of this annoys me, or makes me uncomfortable. I'm 16, he must be 30 or something. I was just wondering if this was out of the norm.
Update:

Oh, yeah, I forgot to mention. I was staying afterschool for tennis practice but then it got cancelled. The teacher told me to come upstairs and sit with him. We just sat and talked about pets, school, friends, etc. The sweets were totally random too. We left the school since we were bored and he bought me a bunch of candy. It wasn't a date (at least I don't think!), but we were at the mall.

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In his past how many other students has he treated this way how many did he get his way with   if you can talk to your parents or the  counselor at school  before you end up being sexually assaulted by him and he will probably tell you if you do me this favor you will do no wrong pass with high grades  if something does happen he would have the leverage over your head on If you tell on me you will be expelled or I know where you live I will harm your family or whatnot
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It's great that you are getting A's in the class..so keep that up..and maybe he isn't as hard on you because you are trying harder than some others are. He shouldn't be buying you candy and a teacher shouldn't be saying things like "you look cute today"..that's completely out of line for a teacher. I understand how you would not want to tell him to stop giving you special attention or treats, who wants to get into trouble? Next time he offers you candy or gum politely tell him " no thanks or that you'll share it with other students".  If he continues or if he starts saying more personal things to you that make you feel weird, talk to the Principal or your parents.
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Yes, I would say this certainly counts as strange behaviour. Teachers are allowed to have favourites but letting you off with something punishable by a 5 day suspension is definitely unusual. It might just be because you get good grades that he thinks you're reliable and he doesn't need to punish you. Were the sweets as a reward for good work or just random?? If you feel really uncomfortable, call a helpline but otherwise, don't encourage his behaviour.
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In the past, there have been situations where teachers have crossed the line and formed relationships with students. But, they will lose their job over this. As long as it stays in the classroom, and he doesn't try to hook up with you outside of school, everything should be fine. He may be giving you special treatment because you are a top student. But, compliments are really uncalled for.
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I think the Cute comment is a little bit too much and maybe buying you gifts is stepping out of line a little but unless he actually does anything to make you feel uncomfortable I wouldnt worry about it. You are probably just his favorite student.

If he ever does make you feel uncomfortable or you get the feeling that the things he says or does isnt right then make sure you tell your parents or another teacher.

Take care honey

xxx
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TO : Bob

lemme guess your a teacher?..

my Answer:

Im not sure if he is but i would say that he just likes you as in prefer to other like a favourite? ..

as you mentioned your always good and getting top marks in his class?.. You cant really blame teachers for having favourites.. :) .. theyre just being human , its typical .. its like a family, parent always have favourites because they look more like eachother more then the other however loves them the same .. in your case i tink that your teacher is just treating you special probably and that you really are a fav of his .. ( your always good in class wit top marks etc..) which lead for you to get away wit more things than other because he has higher tolerance for you than other ..

in conclusion i would say that i dont think he does like you in that way but only likes you

regarding on your friends saying that they notice that his staring at you weird, i tink theye just jelous or dont like him?

hope i helped
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well, wher i live, this happens A LOT. teachers violating students and such. one teacher was being arrested and even announced to the world that he loved the girl that he had molested. (i know this teacher but it has nothing to do with anything) i would reccomend you telling him that you are noticing ,as are your friends, some innapropriate behavior coming from him and ask that he treast you like every other student in the school.
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Ignore bobs question thats a stupid answer. It depends, He could really just care for you like a daughter, from what you've told me it seems you guys have a friendship and like i said HE cares for you and wants the best for you :) Its possible that he does have feelings but i would need more information. If anything more happens feel free to email me!
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Maybe he just is telling the truth. Maybe your hair looked cute that day. I don't know.

Or maybe he just wanted to be good friends. I mean like teacher-student type

He's a good guy I guess. But stay away a little cuz he might abuse you (sexually speaking)
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Well, he's probably nicer to you because of your cutting.  He doesn't want to stress you out anymore and cause you to hurt yourself more.  He doesn't "like" you, he's trying to make you feel good by complimenting you and letting you off with warnings instead of making your life more hectic.  

Be happy about it, and thank him when the time is right.
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