How to talk to girls if you are shy?

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im 16 and I have never even talked to a girl. and by the way im not gay,(dont make fun of me)......this is making me very sad. I dont have any friends that are girls so I cant tell them to introduce me. Whenever the situation comes up, I always chicken out. I dont wanna be shy I just am, also my friends arent really ladies men so they cant introduce me either. What im asking is how can I just get the confidence to talk to a girl for the first time ever?

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you just have to get in a mind set that you just don't give a **** what they are thinking of you, i know that's simpler said than done but you have to think that way. Talk to girls like you would talk to your friends don't adjust your conversation or personality just because she is a girl (that is within reason of course). Also it would really help if you talked to a girl that is a friend, even if its your sisters friend or something. BTW it can be hard at your age but it gets a lot easier as you get a bit older.
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Start out with only small talk the first time you talk! Maybe with a hey whats up?, how is your day?, or something along those lines. When you get more conferable around girls then go for the longer conversation. Also, don't worry about looking or saying something stupid because there is just a bigger chance that you will mess something up.Also, your only 16 you will have so many chances with women in your life it will be crazy. So go grow some nuts and talk because after awhile you'll regret not doing it. But if it goes bad in a week they'll forget all about it. I don't know if you realize you wont keep in contact with many people after high school, so go make yourself realized by the ladies while you have a chance. Good Luck!
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The best thing to do is act normal and be yourself. We girls love shy boys anyways. Shy boys are adorable because they are shy like little boys but honestly it's only cute for a while after a while we then begin to think you guys are losers or weak so be careful , toughen up as soon as you finally get the courage to stop that shyness of yours, clue: just don't go more than a month or two being a shy boy, ok. :)
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You just conquered your fear, brother, see? look how many girls answered your question. Start off small. Maybe find a girl online, be yourself and get to know her, then meet up with her. It's a rare breed of guy that has the confidence to approach a group of girls, but if you approach a girl that interests you, say, in a cafe, and you don't come across as a player with a retarded pick-up line, or a complete wierdo, then she'll either respectfully decline your advances or genuinely be interested in your company. Be mature, confident, and Be respectful. And be you.

There are millions of girls out there. And they all have different tastes in men. You're young, so take your time, stay confident, and don't let any setbacks discourage you.
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I was shy coming up too.  I used to frequent chat rooms and found it a lot easier to talk to people when I didn't actually have to look them in the eyes.  That helped me figure out what people my age were interested in (I was always kind of an "old soul" for my age, so it wasn't natural for me), and I could kind of practice talking to the opposite sex there.  I actually met my ex-boyfriend online via AOL chat (he found my AOL profile) when I was 13, and we lasted til a couple of years ago (I'm 22 now).  I met my current boyfriend online too, a little over a year ago.  

If you don't wanna try the online thing, I would suggest picking out a girl who is shy like you when you're out on the lunch grounds or whatever.  You know, the one who is sitting by herself trying not to look awkward, or has her nose buried in a book (that would be me a few years ago LOL). Chances are, unless she's really insecure and fronting to cover it, she'll appreciate the attention and it won't be so intimidating to talk to someone who is also shy.
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I have the same exact problem as you! Except I'm a girl and I'm 15.

I am extremley shy. I have been on some many websites, read books/ magazines trying to over come my shyness. Here are the most common tips:

1. smile

2. be yourself

3. have confidence

4. have good posture
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I was shy too when I was in school. There are 2 things you need to do. Smiling at them is a must but you must also make eye contact. It will be hard to do if you are shy, I know the tendency is to look the other way or down at your shoes, but you do have to make some effort here. If you are good looking and they can see you look "at" them when you smile, they will start to ask around with their friends, someone will tell her you are shy and I am sure she (or one of her friends) will initiate some contact. Compliment her and find something she is interested in, girls love to talk.....just get em going! Good Luck!
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yo homie that ain't good patna, u gotta be more loose son haha that's my ghetto talk but anyways just be yourself and talk to them it's not that hard i'm usually shy around girls too but only the ones i have feelings for. now the problem with u is that ur shy around all the girls u meet which u have to change or when ur older it's gonna get worst... the best place to start conversation with a girl is in school or when u are hanging out with friends. just start a conversation and go with the flow, once u start getting to know some girls you'll be more confident and maybe even become a ladies man haha

hope i helped...good luck bro
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1.your a guy dont act so emotional a alittle is ok but not so much people might think your gay

2. when your about to talk to a girl but chicken out !!!Dont!!! just breath deep and say to your self :what ever she dont even no me so it dont matter if i say some thin wrong

3.comment her on clothes but not to much 1 or 2

4.act like a dick a little you know like a jerk but just a little ex:ay are those hair extensions lol and say im just playing

5.if you get her name and then see her again some time around talk to her some more be sweet  but act like a jerk a little not so much she says **** you(only if you think she accepts you as a friend even if you think)

6.attemp this on others but this whole process might not work so in the end always stick with your gut this is like an out line

if you need more help you could email me i wont get mad lol kingjay510@yahoo.com and if your like a guy that looks boring it might take long also bring your friends with you when you walk by someone just to say hi as a start (AGAIN THIS WONT WORK FOR MOST PEOPLE EVERY PERSON IS DIFFERNT)
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if you sit next to a girl in clas find something to complain about. i have alot of friend who are girls and i know one thing they like to do is complain. say this class is boring or does she "the teahcer" ever stop talking and stuff like that. she will agree, lauph, and it will start a convo. ask her what classes shes taking. im shy too but girls seem to like to talk to shy guys, if you aproach a girl she will feel even more special because you are shy and you approached her. im sure youve talked to a girl. what do you mean you havent? like havent have a deep convorsation? always tell yourself you live once and dont be shy, people from school ussually know you since you were young so they know you. dont feel like your being watched if you take a sec and look around nobody is watching you there nusy with there own thing.
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