How to get over a crush on a coworker?

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Last week I told a guy friend of mine at work that it would be better that we didn't talk so I can get over my crush on him since he's in a long-distance relationship with another girl, as a matter of fact, she's in the Philippines and he's here in the US. Before this happened, we joked around about hooking up, but then I felt bad and hurt about us joking about it. I told him that i really wanted to do it since I like him,

but he has a gf and that it wouldn't be wise if we did it. Anyway, I got angry with him since he didn't respond back to me after I texted him Happy New Year's and I ended up sending him another text calling him a "dog" and that I didn't want to have anything to do with him, then later I apologized via text. Then the next day, I wrote him a letter telling him how I felt hurt about us joking around, and the fact we just treat each other as professionals. He's ignoring me, no hello, excuse me, thank you, nada. The thing is I still have feelings for him.

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Tell yourself over and over that it's time to move on. What I do is say, "Let it go. Let it go" repeatedly if it's haunting my thoughts. Find something positive to distract you from thoughts of him, like exercise. When you let it go, the space in your head/heart that he was taking up will be filled with something much better.
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You are really sending mixed messages to him and I'm not surprised by his distance....on one hand, you should be commended to show respect for him and his girlfriend by keeping it a friendly thing...on the other hand when you text him on new years and then call him a dog than saying sorry THEN write a letter, we frankly...

that's WAY TOO MUCH...your actions are creating a relationship that isn't there and that you DIDNT want in the first place.....it is unwise to do what you did after new years if you only had a friendly relationship prior...those are almost the actions of an ex or a girl DIDNT say no...again congrats on doing the right thing but be careful the messages you send cause his reaction to this point is not surprising...good luck
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Unfortunately, you've made yourself look pretty silly where this guy is concerned.  He has a girlfriend - and he's not interested in you.  Maybe he was in the movies - or in the middle of a deep conversation when you sent the text - and then forgot to respond later because - tough as it may be for you to accept - you're not really that important to him.  

That certainly doesn't make this guy a dog.  It just made you look foolish.  He's probably smart to ignore you.  If you called him a dog for not texting you - he's probably thinking you're going to turn him in for sexual harassment when you joked about hooking up.  DON'T GO THERE.  Don't do it - and don't talk to him about how you are or aren't going to do it.  I was just telling you what MIGHT be in his head.  Whether it's in his head or not - this guy is justified in ignoring you.  Your behavior probably seems very odd to him.

The smartest thing you've done is ask how you can get over him - because that is for sure what you need to do.  It will take time - but if he keeps ignoring you - your feelings will start to fade.  It's very hard to care for somebody who really doesn't care for you - and what's more - thinks you're foolish.

Chalk it up to experience and move on.  Concentrate on your job.  I mean - that's what you're there for each day - to work and make some money for your employer - right?
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I went through this for 3 years.  It tore me apart.  The only way I was able to get over it was to quit the job.  I'm not suggesting you do that but if there is serious chemistry between the two of you this will continue to torture you both.  In the end, he will tell everyone you are crazy, and you'll even wonder that yourself.  Good luck
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Take your own advice and move on, he has.  

The best way to get over a crush is to find other interests.  You told the man that it would be best if you didn't talk so you could get over him.  He is respecting that.  You should appreciate that he respects you that much.

Find another interest and let your own advice work for both of you.
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Nope, not incorrect ^_^ I'm engaged to my weight down lol. wide-spread he'd come to artwork it would basically make it nicely worth being there, even longer, or coming in on an off day to eat lunch(it became somewhat pizza position).

I even took my father and mom there to eat dinner one time to work out him, they love him. He ended up falling for me too so we take to at least one yet another and right here we are 3 years later ^_^ Our first date, we took a cruise to an airport the position we watched the planes take off and land interior the sundown, he knew I loved planes and needed to be a stewardess, so he took me there.
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This sounds like another would have been 'hit it and quit its the case.  He clearly just wanted to fool around with you with no strings attached and when you had enough decency to have respect for his girlfriend, he bailed.

Who knows, he may not even have a girlfriend overseas and just used that so that if you did hook up, he wouldn't have to have a relationship with you.

Move on girl, he's definitely NOT worth it and doesn't deserve someone like you!
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Get over your feelings for him, maybe get another job, when someone tells you who they are, believe them.  His actions clearly tell you that he wants NOTHING to do with you.  He is ignoring you, hoping that you get the message.   Move on, like you said, he has a girlfriend, would you want a female co-worker to involve herself with your boyfriend in the same way that you are hounding this man.  Get over him.
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just realise that you do like him and at some time it will go away if not the ask him to dinner as friends
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well, you just go to a club or out somewhere and find someone new or just forget about him think of all his bad qualities instead of all the good ones when you think of him.
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