How to get over being ugly?

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I've fully accepted the fact that I am ugly on the outside. (I'm female btw) I have learned to ignore it usually and just be who I am. However, when someone outright calls me ugly, like what just happened today, then I start to get depressed again. I've become pretty good at making it past mirrors without being bothered but I've been sitting in front of a mirror all evening just crying. How can I feel better when I fall into these ruts occasionally? please no "you're beautiful on the inside, it is what counts" stuff, it doesn't work.

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people who only consider looks in a person are not the best people. Being a nice kind person makes people gravitate towards you and love your company. In contrast, being a bitchy cold-hearted person who judges people's looks makes a person unlikeable and people will talk about them the same. I'm not saying you have to accept it, but there are many people out there who will take a good person over a shallow one any day. Besides, one day we're all going to be old and ugly, at least we have each other.

Find friends where you have stuff in common, be social, and don't worry about what you think other people are thinking about your looks. People in their mid to late 20's aren't as vocally critical about looks as teenagers are, you will see a lot of the people calling you ugly getting fat and ugly themselves. Believe that you're not ugly, believe that you're beautiful on the inside AND on the outside. Because you are beautiful.  Obviously, the people that call you "ugly" are just jealous. You're not ugly I bet you're beautiful :) xxx Hope this helps you. (: xx
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There's no easy answer to this, but I will say a couple of things.

First, that anyone who says something like that is a total ***.

Second, once people get to know you, they look past your physical appearance - it is only with strangers that this is a hindrance.

Third, that whenever you hear somebody say this, since this has happened to you multiple times, just say "eh, it's not like I haven't heard it before" and move on.

Fourth, that a LOT of people are ugly. Seriously, look around. You're not the only one.

Fifth, that most people really don't care how you look.

And lastly, that too much emphasis is placed on looks in the first place.

It always sucks to hear crap like that from people. Just don't let it get to you too much. There's no reason that you should have to feel that bad about how you look. It makes no sense at all.

Also, IMO, no one is ugly. It's easy as a woman to become convinced of this (and I'm not talking about the blond skinny idiots who think they are ugly). But the older I get the less I think it is true. Nothing wrong with being realistic, but don't be down on yourself either.
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All you need is confidence. Confidence is the most attractive trait ANYONE can have. If you have a nice personality then what's the problem? I understand that the horrible comments must hurt your feelings but you need to accept what you look like because it could be worse. If you need something to help with your confidence try buying a new outfit and do things that make you happy.

Eff the rest!!! lol
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Exercise and be healthy! It will make you feel healthier and give you a glow. Exercise allows your body to release endorphins which will literally make you happy and exude positive energy. If you are negative all the time, even the most beautiful person in the world can look ugly. But if you are positive, the ugliest person can seem like the most beautiful because PERSONALITY is what counts!!
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You're beautiful. I don't care what you think, you're beautiful. I'm beautiful. I'm 13, I've got terrible acne, a huge nose, a small upper lip and a huge lower one, and occasionally freckles. I think I'm completely and totally ugly. But everyone I talk to thinks differently. They say all this good, positive stuff about me, and even though I don't believe a word of it, I at least know I'm fortunate enough not to have a medical condition or something that makes me look ugly. Besides, ugly is just a word. It's unrealistic to try to be a celebrity or a model unless your what society thinks qualifies as perfect nowadays. Basically, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, and whoever thinks differently isn't able to fathom you may be prettier than them. :D good luck and I hope I helped!
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first of all, stop thinking that about yourself right now

I am serious, the right clothes and hairstyle makes anyone look good, take me for instance, look at my profile pick (ick), i know, it is ugly

but am I ugly?

no, not in the slightest, why? confidence

look, keep your head up, look people in the eye, smile, and get a new outfit (this last part doesn't matter as much).

if you feel beautiful, and give off the vibe that you feel this way, people will begin to take notice that you know what? you are beautiful.

hope it all works out
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I used to be a waitress and there was a couple who would come in regularly he was tall, skinny with glasses and pimples and she was short very chubby with short hair and not a pretty face.  They were planning their wedding and were so much in love that we just adored them.  Someone is going to love you just the way you are and the rest of the world will not even matter.

People who call people ugly feel ugly themselves.  

Everyone looks better when they smile so keep smiling.  Your day will come.
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Everyone has flaws and assets physically.  If youre balding or your face is deformed I'm sure there is someone who can see the beauty in your eyes etc.  Everyone has different tastes about what they find to be beautiful.  Just be open to accepting it (and believing it) when someone finds you to be beautiful.  Trust me, it will happen someday.
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Usually, that is too long for me. I believe it depends on the guy as well as his face though. Certain guys may pull off long hair and others can't.
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No one is ugly to everyone.  See yourself through the eyes of the person who loves you as much as you love them cuz that person is out there.
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