How to know if a man is smitten with you

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How is a girl to know if a guy is smitten with her?

Is it in his behavior? Does he linger around and tend to be more "present" than he did before? Is he more chatty? And more importantly, if it is merely BASED on physical attraction, how is a girl to know? What are the differences between physical attraction and real genuine attraction? I really suck at this stuff so thanks so much in advance1
Update:

It's not that simple...we work together.....in a field where showing any ANY kind of affection is a big no-no. And we cant date while working at the same place. It sucks but the tension is kinda nice :D
Update 2:

From what you all are saying it seems like odds are in my favor. I appreciate the advice, my last (and only) relationship was with a seriously abusive *psych job* guy, so I appreciate you humoring me.

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Well, first of all, most attractions begin as physical attractions because the first thing you notice about them is how they look, how they dress, etc., (unless you're trying to meet somebody online which I don't recommend) You can't be sitting 50 feet away from somebody in a bar and know that you both share the same hobbies, interests, etc.,  

So there's nothing wrong with a guy asking out a girl initially based on physical attraction alone because the whole purpose of the date is for the guy and the girl to find out whether they have any chemistry. What's so wrong with that? No matter how beautiful a girl is, I won't keep seeing her if she and I aren't making any connection on an emotional level.

If he's someone who is talkative, outgoing, etc., then yes, him chatting you up a lot is definitely a sign that he's interested.

If he's shy, then if he does approach you, he'll stammer a lot when he speaks and have trouble making eye contact. But he'll look at you and make eye contact with you from a distance.

This all depends on his personality type, but I assume you know him well enough to judge.

Let him approach you and make the first move. But you also have to make yourself approachable. For example, look at him when he's talking to you (or if you're talking to him) and give him some small talk of your own. And smile at him. So many girls ask how they can get a guy to ask them out without letting the guy know that they like him. This is such a silly question because the only way you're gonna get a guy to ask you out is by letting him know you like him. You don't have to come out and say it directly, just show it to him with your body language.  

I've been rejected by a lot of girls it always hurts. If a guy has the guts to start talking to you, you have a responsibility to reciprocate. Don't play hard to get. Approaching girls and asking them for dates is probably the hardest thing any guy has to do, so any guy who does it deserves some respect.

If you end up going on a date with a guy who turns to be a jerk, it's no biggie. The more guys you "take a chance" on, the more likely you'll be able to meet Mr. Right. No matter how bad a date is, it's a lot better than wasting your Friday night sitting at home with a pint of Ben and Jerry's. =)
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It usually starts with physical attraction but if he is speaking with you and getting to know you then I'd say he is attracted to you as a person and also finds you attractive physically.  From what you've described... it sounds like he is smitten with you.  The most important thing you need to figure out is whether or not you are smitten with him.  Always choose who you want to be with.  Never just go with the flow because someone else shows interest.  That doesn't mean make the first move... because if you really want it to work the odds are against you if you make the first move.  It means that you should not date someone just because they show an interest.  Make sure it is someone you'd like to be smitten with also.  Good luck and God bless!
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sometimes, the conduct leading to the eventual revelation of whether he likes you is more exciting.  bask in his attention, if any.  flirt and go out with him.  guys are not very verbal, so, observe his conduct.  the test is: would he have done the same thing to other girls?  while you are the process of ascertaining, don't forget to smell the roses and have fun with him.  guys do go for physical appearances (whether they like to admit it or not).  but, my take on guys is this: initial attraction will invariably be on physical outlooks... but, if you are already a friend to these guys, they also go for personalities...
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yes it's def in his behavior --- he wants to be with you and know more about you --- physical attraction is the start but if he is really interested then he will want to get inside your head and find out what you like and dislike how you feel --- genuine attraction is when you say no and he still wants to be with you --- and he does not ask or push the issue
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It's always based on physical attraction.

You should learn that now.  Men are 'built' that way.

The question is what else?  

Yes, he chats you up more, is around you more, and looks at you more.   Let's face it, it's a game.   The girl wants "commitment"  first and the guy wants "contact" first.
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It is all about the body language of the person.  The next time you speak to him, look at his eyes.  That tells it all.  Also, if he touches you while he talks--he is defiantly interested.  If he compliments you on the wardrobe or perfume that is a sign too!
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